child of God, wife, mother, recovering anorexic who longs to see the beauty in herself that she sees in the world around her

Friday, August 5, 2011

"real" depression?

For several months I have been stabilizing somewhat with my depression.  The lows still came but they weren't so low that I couldn't remember what the highs felt like and I've been just chugging along one foot in front of the other and making it.  I am aware that the past couple of weeks have been harder to just keep going.  I've been very sad lately.  Sad, even when I am happy.  The lows are sinking lower and are harder to pull myself out of.  Depression severely affects my eating disorder, it's just too much work to take care of me when I'm depressed.  Recovery suddenly becomes an insurmountable task.  Depression didn't cause my eating disorder, nor did it relapse me but it does make recovery so very difficult. 

So here I am again.  Happy because tomorrow is my favorite day of the entire year and yet feeling a weight behind the happiness.  Having managed the depression so well for the past several months and now to be feeling its heaviness on me again, makes me wonder if my mom was right, that this is all in my head.  If you truly have depression, is it likely that you could be off your meds and function well for months and then crash?  Is this real depression or do I just not know how to handle real life? 

My mother's words when I was in high school are echoing in my ears.  "There's nothing wrong with her that a little more prayer and time in the Word wouldn't take care of."  Is that true?  Are my struggles directly linked with my faith?  I mean, I know that God has brought me peace when it should have been impossible.  I know there are times that my issue is that I am not trusting God and I'm allowing fear and anxiety to dominate my heart.  But there are also times while deep in worship, I still feel the weight on my heart, times when I press in hard to my Savior and still ache even as He holds me close. 

Is this me?  Is this my faith?  Is this a lack of trust in the God of all Creation?  Is this all in my head?  Is this hormonal?  Is this real?


  1. Sometimes we don't know exactly where it comes from. I can relate to your questions though because I wonder the same thing. When I am off my anti-depressant meds, Even though I have that weight of sadness or low feelings, I can still have lots of good days... so it also makes me wonder if I am truly depressed. I was diagnosed with a chemical imbalance, but why can I be okay sometimes without my meds??

    I think the important thing is to try not to analyze and judge the "depression" or YOU so much! (be nicer to yourself, you deserve that) and to just do what you can to help the problem. I think this is just the doubt, fear, exhaustion talking and trying to convince you that it is you, or your faith in god, or that you are somehow making it up, or whatever - but that is a trap. If that makes sense. I think you're faith in god is very strong. I think you are doubting things because you don't understand them. I do that ALOT :( But try not to because it can be dangerous. Just try to find those things that will help lift the sadness. And those days when you are sad and don't know why... just try to give yourself a break and try not to judge yourself or your feelings. You are STRONG! And you have proven that many times over!

    okay... I am done with my book of a comment. lol. Take care girly ;)

  2. wow, thanks! I'm still trying to figure out how to be nicer to myself. I'm sure someday it will get easier, right? I appreciate the encouragement. Thanks!